One Simple Way For Dancers To Relieve Stress

Stress is a major factor in all our lives. Doesn’t matter if you dance for a living or part-time, or for recreation. It’s tough to leave off the dance floor. Tough to get off our minds– the things that are stressing us out.  Stress can get into our bones, at times making our sanity seem brittle.

Front-split-500x270Sometimes we don’t even know it’s coming, like a rogue wave. Slam! That’s how pent-up stress, and emotions like to grace us with their presence.

I’ve heard it referred to as a beach ball you’re trying to hold under water, or burying it means burying it alive. It can be you’re living in future events, playing things out; conversations, situations. Like a constant mind chatter. Or is it the past you have stuck to the bottom of your shoe.

When I get overwhelmed with life my stress level skyrocket’s and begins to affect all areas of my life. For some reason the now is not a place it want’s to be. Maybe because right now is where the stress is.. Or is it?

According to the book Practicing The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle …

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“To be identified with your mind is to be trapped in time: the compulsion to live almost exclusively through memory and anticipation. This creates an endless preoccupation with past and future and an unwillingness to honor and acknowledge the present moment and allow it to be.”

He nailed it. In two sentences…

I identify most with “endless preoccupation” and “allow it to be”. I wish I knew that 20 years ago! ( oops, there I go living in the past)

So, if my mind and body are not still processing past stress, or anticipating future stressful events, then I am free right now to just….be. I have mental space, free to enjoy the song on the radio. Or hear absolutely nothing at all.

This leads me to the topic of meditation.

One way for dancers to relieve stress is to practice living in the present moment through meditation. Meditation is a skill used to clear the mind, and is as simple as listening to your self breathe. To feel that breath, not just in your chest, but in your spirit. Closing your eyes turns things inward, we can then begin the process…

I am new to meditation. I have been practicing for about 6 months, and have learned how powerful the mind is, especially when you try to tell it no! Like a spoiled child, it stomps its foot.

No longer dragged around by thoughts, you can steal those moments back. Give yourself the chance to just be.

Guided mediation has helped immensely in learning how to quite the mind, I have a hard time with hearing nothing. A person’s voice helps me relax. (You can log on to You Tube, and look up guided meditation, there are many meditation phone apps, too.)

It’s that simple. You can do it right now. Or later when you have a few moments between classes, appointments, rehearsals, more classes, and all the stuff that fills your day.

Try it. Let me know how it goes…

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Learning To Say I Am Enough

We’re always striving for something, and those who’re struggling with body image, and self-worth may feel like this is a never-ending, up-hill battle.
It’s like the song we used to sing as kids. “This is the song that ngrande-plieever ends, and it goes on and on my friends.”

But it’s the truth. Day after day fighting to feel comfortable in your own skin is exhausting! Striving is not a bad thing, working to better yourself, to grow, and look back this time next year and say ” yup, I’m not in the same place I was.” I say that every summer. Not sure why it happens then, but it does. For some people its New Years or Birthday’s.
When I’m sharing about the eating disorder recovery journey the topic of body image, and appearance are always addressed due to the nature of ED and how much it loves to deceive us into thinking “the struggle” is about our body size. With so much focus on improving our “health” as it’s related to size, striving to change our body so we’ll be a better person, have value, important, or successful, is a boat load of crap….which I’m no longer buying.

Here’s the thing they’re not going to tell you….

You’re already good enough, just the way you are. You don’t have to change anything about yourself to have value.

The body you have is already good enough. Embracing your body and embracing that realization breaks the cycle, breaks the wall of insecurity, crumbles the shame barrier.

Strength in your muscles, turn-out and technique will improve with hard work, but you’re starting from a place of acceptance, that is how you embrace the I am enough philosophy and apply it to your dancing. cropped-i-am-enough_.jpg

I am enough just the way I am, is the affirmation I have to say everyday, sometimes many times a day, to remind myself of the truth because pressure is everywhere.

And with an eating disorder, the pressure also comes from the inside.

If you’re a dancer you have honed your skills of daily routines. I’m sure you’re very familiar with being persistent. Persistence pays off. Handwork pay’s off, and get’s you where you want to be, and that’s exactly what you’ll need to begin a mindset shift.

Here are few steps to get you started:

1.Use affirmations-which are really just you, telling you the truth about you.

Get it? And their yours to create. Write your own script. Some of mine are: you are good enough, you do enough, you are more than your illness. The more you stick those words in your brain the sooner they will start occurring naturally.

2. Remind yourself you DO enough.bodyimage

We are a culture of doers. It’s true, connected on our devices, our jobs, our activities. Go, go, go, go. When are we NOT doing something? (besides sleeping) At the end of my day–because I can work like a pack-horse–taking an intentional big, deep breath, and a long exhale is the first step to getting off the DO train.  I’ve done enough. Do you ever find yourself trying to DO more, because you’re trying to make yourself worth more?

The thought comes before the feeling. I don’t think I’m enough, so I’ve got to do more.

3. I’ve had enough.

It’s about getting sick and tired of being sick and tired. The “stop I wanna get off” switch flips.

The idea that you aren’t good enough the way you are has taken over your life, and there’s no more joy, no more peace. Striving. Striving. Striving.

So, stop. Take a deep breath. This is a process, these suggestions are to get you started thinking of ways to change your mind-set.

For more resources you can go to these sites.

www.edreferral.com

www.edcatalogue.com/edpulse/

https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/

 

 

 

 

 

 

Embracing Change

SO much has changed…….

I start conversations with this phrase more often than I realize. Whether it be a friend I haven’t spoken to in a few months, or even a Doctor I see once a year for a check-up. Change is part of life; even when we don’t want it to be.

Growth occurs in life when we open ourselves to new possibilities, idea’s, opportunities. Most of those moments do not have a guarantee stamped on the box. Maybe ‘chance and change’ can be interchangeable.

In the past six months, Dancing With ED has become an official 501c3 charitable organization. If you would have told me a five years ago I would come this far…. let’s just say I wouldn’t believe it.

But it happened, because things changed.

Now that I see how much can be accomplished within myself and my recovery by making myself vulnerable, and putting myself out there, I will never stop changing.

In this coming year I have plans to take another BIG leap. We will see where I land.

I encourage you to think about your next leap; where it will take you, and where you will land.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How To Support Dancing With ED's Mission: 3 Easy Steps

I’ve had many dance parents, teachers, former dance professionals, eating disorder treatment providers etc… ask me how they can support my mission and nonprofit organization.

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Here is how to support Dancing With ED:

  • Step One: We want you to like us… on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. Then share with your friends, ask them to share with their friends….. because we want them to like us, too. Simple, right?
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